Ask a Mentor: Any Tips On Navigating Office Holiday Parties?

Written by Julie Tereshchuk.

I’m a recent graduate, who is used to client meetings and the like, but feel confused about the blurred lines at office social events.

Make sure not to drink too much!

Also use this opportunity to get to know your colleagues in a more personal way than you’ve been able to in the office. That can help you get business done when Monday rolls around.

– Margaret Barry

I know I always look forward to our office holiday party. Looking back over the years though, I can definitely remember times when I thought, “Yikes, she’s had too much to drink and is going to regret doing that tomorrow!” Having too many cocktails can really get you into trouble, so I would advise you to know your limitations. You wouldn’t want to do something to jeopardize the reputation you worked so hard to build at your company.

Office parties are a great chance to get to know your co-workers though and share stories about your families, backgrounds, hobbies, etc. You will find that these conversations lead to closer working relationships and can do a lot to build trust and friendships in the office.

– Erin Huddleston

Think of office social events as an extension of your regular work environment. These are the same people you will see again back in the office.

Rule #1. Don’t drink too much alcohol, have plenty of water.

Rule #2. Don’t do or say anything that you wouldn’t mind your mother seeing or hearing. This is not the time to let your hair down, especially in the world of smartphone cameras.

Rule #3. See Rule #1.

– Barbara Springer

It’s okay to dress up a bit for these events, if they are held in the evening, and particularly if they are held at a restaurant or other event space.

If they are being held at the office after work, no need to change out of your work clothes. But, when dressing up, remember that it’s still your co-workers and keep it classy–nothing too tight, too short, or too revealing. If you have to question whether it’s appropriate, it’s not.

Also, don’t drink too much. One drink to be social is fine (two if you have a high tolerance.) But stop there. Lower inhibitions+coworkers/professional environment ≠ career success.

It’s also fine not to drink at all. If everyone else is, and you want to “fit in,” drink cranberry juice in a wine glass, or soda water with lime.

– Maura Thomas